42-year-old gives birth to 'miracle' baby after years of waiting

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A 43-year-old woman has had her 'miracle' baby after waiting for years for her to arrive.

Ellen Malilo, of Hyson Green, and her husband Victor, 41, had wanted a baby together since they met in 1995 and had been trying since their marriage in 2011.

They suffered a number of disappointments, including two miscarriages, as her demanding job as a lawyer and her diabetes made it difficult to conceive.

However, Mrs Green finally found out she was pregnant at the age of 42 and gave birth to her “beautiful” daughter Shalom at City Hospital last year on November 2.

Shalom, who will be turning one next week, has now won the Nottingham Post Baby of the Year award for the 10 to 18 month category.

She said: “We named her Shalom because to me it means perfect peace, nothing broken, nothing missing, tranquillity. When she arrived she stopped all the hopelessness.

“She is my miracle baby, that’s what I call her.

“I loved her the moment I saw her. My husband pulled her in to his arms and showed me this beautiful face.

“I thought I had loved before but when I saw her I realised there was a whole new level of love and my heart just melted.”

Her insulin dependent Type 2 diabetes and the stress of her job as an adult social care lawyer meant that she was struggling to conceive a baby, and the two times she did they did not make it beyond two months in the womb.

Ellen Malilo with her daughter who has won the Baby of the Year competition. (L-R) Victor Malito, Shalom Malito and Ellen Msalito

She said that friends were starting to wonder whether it would ever happen because of her age but the Pentecostal Christian did not lose faith.

Indeed, she was told by a Pastor and prophet who lives in her native Malawi that she would be with a child in a month, and exactly a month later Shalom was conceived.

However she also wants to thank the staff at City Hospital for helping her through her pregnancy, which was classified as “high risk” because of her condition.

This meant she attended a clinic for mothers with diabetes every second Tuesday for the whole pregnancy to make sure her sugar levels were safe and there were no complications.

She also had to have a caesarean four weeks early because her daughter was getting too large and spent the week afterwards in the hospital recovering.

Speaking about the care she received she said: “The treatment was perfect, they crossed every 't' and dotted every 'i' and did everything they could to make sure my baby was fine.

“I really want to them to know how grateful I am, particularly to Dr Andrew Simms, Dr Ghada El Senoun, Dr Renee Paige and Dr Yvs Rao, who all helped me. People never talk about this side of the NHS but if I were pregnant in a poorer country we both could have died.”

She added that she is now more determined than ever to keep healthy so she could look after her daughter.

Libby Dowling, senior clinical advisor at Diabetes UK, said: “Women with Type 2 diabetes can have a healthy pregnancy and baby just like any other woman. But there is more risk of complications when you have diabetes, both to the mother and baby.

"Larger babies are also more common for women with diabetes and can make labour more difficult.

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“It is really important women with diabetes plan their pregnancy and have regular check-ups with their diabetes team throughout and after their baby is born to minimise these risks.”

Dr Andy Simms, a consultant obstetrician at City Hospital, said: “Diabetes in pregnancy is increasingly common as we are detecting more cases of gestational diabetes.

"We also look after women with pre-existing diabetes. Our aim is to provide individualised care resulting in a healthy mother and baby at the end of pregnancy.

"We are able to provide good continuity of care which women appreciate, and it is good to hear positive feedback from women who have utilised the service. We are delighted to hear that Ellen’s baby has received an award. Our congratulations to Ellen and her family.”